Is anger or depression a problem for you?

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Is anger or depression a problem for you?

Post by Dallas » Wed May 11, 2011 10:36 am

It's hard to believe the number of times that newer people in sobriety will smirk with something like "Watch out! It's a long fall when you fall off that pink cloud!" My reply? "I wouldn't worry about it, if I were you -- I've been on my pink cloud longer than you've been sober!"

It's amazing -- the high number of people in recovery -- that still don't know, realize or understand that "happy, comfortable and sober -- is what really does happen when we do the work!"

Have you noticed how difficult it is to be depressed or angry or unhappy -- while your laughing?

By using the tools available in recovery (the 12 Steps WHEN used PROPERLY) we can learn to control our emotions -- rather than having our emotions control us.

Anger, fear, resentments, unhappiness, boredom, lonliness, depression -- can become options -- rather than requirements -- by learning a different way of living.

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Post by tim-one » Wed May 11, 2011 8:38 pm

Great topic, Dallas.

I'm guesing that (might be exagerating) EVERYONE who comes to an AA meeting for the first time is greatly depressed and/or likely really miffed that he or she has the need to be there.

The other day in a meeting, someone rattles off some list of 20 questions to determine if you're an alcoholic. It was tongue-in-cheek, of course, but all very very true indicators.

One questions was, "Have you ever been treated by your doctor for alcohol abuse or alcoholism". I laughed because that was the only one I honestly said no to.

He'd treated me for clinical depression, bi-polar, anxiety, insomnia, ADHD, incontinence, and high cholesterol. But not for alcohol. Of course I always lied to him about my drinking.

Now I could have added obsessive compulsive disorder to it. I was obsessive about drinking and was compelled to do it.

AfterI stopped drinking, I kept had these frequent bouts of totally fogged and confused head. Extremely debilitating. Mydctor, now an adictionologist, decided to start weening me off of all of those psych meds one at a time. The symptom would go away for a few weeks and then return after each med was stopped.

Finally, after stopping the last medication, the problem was gone and has not returned. Coincidentally, I had also completedd step 12 about the same time. I had also been growing spiritually, healing physically andmentally, and had begun making consistent progress examining and controlling my behavior and emotional state as my "walking" step 10, 11, and 12.

I am not depressed. not exuberant, but dogone reasonable nearly all the time. I don't have outrageous mood swings and the next person I meet doesn't pay the consequences of the last person I was with. I overheard my boss tell another employee to "ask Tim how he does it ... he's the most organized person here'. :shock: (NEVER heard THAT before) Where's the "humble" icon?

I don't even take the ADHD med anymore. I'd needed that all my life. And again, I'm just so reasonable these days.

The best thing...I'm sleeping like a baby with no pharmiceutical aid.

All of those problems except ADHD and high cholesterol were due to drinking as well as constant barage of problems to deal with because of my drinking. The ADHD I'd dealt with since I was a kid. And even that is perfectly under control through this program and God's care. They all try to poke through under circumtances, but all take only a moment to squelch. Talk about happy, joyous and free. I truly am today.

But I can give it up at a moments notice. I could decide stop working the program daily, stop going to meetings, stop paying attention to my HP and take a drink. No idea why I would do that. I didn't today.

I love sobriety. I think I'll keep coming back. No it's not all roses. I don't know any normies who get that from life. But things that used to scramble me don't. I can be ... well ... shaken, but not stirred.

Love y'all.

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Post by Dallas » Wed May 11, 2011 8:56 pm

Thanks for sharing your experience Tim! I love it!

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Post by djserenity » Thu May 19, 2011 7:33 pm

Great topic, I love it. I found that once I started Working the steps instead of reading the steps, the anger and depression disappered. I smile alot now, people ask why so happy, I just smile. :D


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Post by grizzlyd » Mon Aug 29, 2011 2:46 pm

I read a post early in the day about addicts being at A.A. meetings and a persons displeasure with people introducing themselves as an addict alcoholic well I am one, a person with two problems that have the same end. I am lucky that in my addiction I have maintained my marriage of thirty years and have the full support of my family I have attended N.A. meetings with my wife and at times this can be a rough crowd and my wife doesn't feel comfortable in this setting, not to take away from what is being accomplished in these rooms.We have found that A.A. is a better fit for us. If this were the normal attitude against addicts at A.A. meetings my recovery would not be where it is today.I will do what ever it takes to keep my wife involved in my recovery so that we can both continue the healing process.

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Post by Pebbles » Wed Aug 31, 2011 10:02 pm

Thank you for bringing this up Dallas. I've felt the same way for awhile now-that God does want us to be happy joyous and free-it's all a part of the promises!! A person at the meetings that I go to keeps saying "Watch out, that pink cloud will go away". The thing is, it's a person with 15 years saying it, not a newcomer. When I got here, I was willing to go to any length.....and by being willing, I can be happy joyous and free. It's much better than the alternative.....


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